Interview: Evanu on Viewing Cams

Welcome back to the blog. Today we’re diving into another interview, but this time with a viewer.

So, you’re a viewer who hasn’t cammed in his life?

Evanu: Oh yes. Good thing too. I hate to think where the Lovense would have to go.

What kind of cam categories are your favorites? (ie, couples, trans, single female/male ect.)

Evanu: I feel honoured and privileged to be in the bedrooms of the single females. I respect them as being younger and often quite lovely. This is wonderfully supportive of my orientation and it makes me feel more manly.

What makes a cam model special?

Evanu: I look for personality, style, freshness and creativity. I like interacting with positive and playful models who seem present and responsive. Life force is important for me and I enjoy models who appear to love what they are doing. Especially when they are experiencing release through orgasm. This is a visual gift different than any other types of media since it is live, personal and interactive. 

What makes cams better than porn? (if you consider them to be, and if not, what makes porn better?)

Evanu: Oh, there are a lot of things. Top on my list is the aspect of how relaxed the models are in their own environment. They are self managed, directed and often quite disciplined. I feel that this venue provides many opportunities for self discovery and personal growth. Over all, I think it is a wonderful form of adult entertainment.

Do you consider watching cam models to be cheating?

Evanu: This is a great question. The answer would depend on the deeper motive for visiting. If a person is in a relationship with a close partner with whom they are having sex, I feel it is important that a man to be able to stand in his own reality and discuss this with his partner at some point. Living in a state of hiding, cheating and being mousy about one’s life and sexuality shows a weakness of character and personal integrity. But, discretion is important, too. It is important to consider your partner’s feelings before sharing, and know how to approach something that may be a sensitive and touchy issue. This also, I feel, may be valuable for opening discussion with her on topics that relate to human sexuality and eroticism.  
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What is the importance of tipping? /how much do you feel is an appropriate amount?

Evanu: I have never heard the phrase “Thank You!” used to often. Tipping is something that males need to consider wisely and must understand who or what is in control. One can tip over into debt quite easily, while another stays in the background absorbing visuals and never providing support for the models. The same is true for other media. I feel this is something each patron must decide for themselves based on how much they can afford and budget, and how they might choose to approach the venue. There are thousands of models available at any given time. How does one decide who to visit and support with tips, and why? There are also questions of control. Seasoned models know how to draw tips from naive visitors.  I think each person who enjoys the venue must recon with this issue at some point and learn to control themselves. This will lead to more consistent and enjoyable viewing, I believe. It is an important aspect of the male psyche to protect, support and maintain his household and friends. If I connect with a model and spend time in her bedroom I tip continuously but modestly as fits my budget. I am finding that it feels better to support a few rather than running around exploring new territory and squandering my resources. As far as an appropriate amount. Many models suggest a price list for what they are prepared to deliver. I think one should honor them when asking for services but never be afraid to negotiate. It is clear that models tend to be quite generous. We should respond in kind with someone we admire and respect.
(Check out Evanu’s blog post on tippingThis was my personal favourite)
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& of course a little self promo- tell me about your blog (when it started/why you started it/it’s goals & purpose)

Evanu: Having been a life coach for sex workers for many years I have come to view the camming venue as one worthy of support and positive input. I feel I have valuable resources to contribute to those who engage interactively there. I enjoy seeing others engage in self discovery and sharing their knowledge and experiences, especially when I have had a hand in their process as a facilitator.

What is the beautiful peoples project?

Evanu: The Beautiful People Project is about perfecting relationships and personal power. How we arrive at these things is very much a function of support groups of people who bring their best selves forward to share their wisdom and experience to increase stature, grace and elegance in their lives. The presence of these elements in a person’s life leads to greater and greater levels of happiness, satisfaction and joy coming from a place of personal self worth and giving. 
Thank you Evanu for reaching out to me, and collaborating with me to do an interview from the perspective of a cam viewer.
Check out the blog post he did on me here
Click here to view his blog 

See you all next week for a post about camming and it’s relation to body positivity.
Love always,
Amy

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