Interview: Couples on Cam

Have you ever wondered what the difference was between solo and couples camming? Here is the interview I did with Ed & Krystal regarding their experience.

Are you dating in real life?
We are an actual couple. We’ve been together, off and on, for 3 years. We enjoy a “semi-open” relationship as we invite girls on the show and Krystal will share me with them.

Do you think couples get more tokens and views than solo performers? Why or why not?
Couples vs. singles is probably a lot closer than you would think. But I would guess that couples get more views based on what I’ve seen. We do both couple and singe shows, and we generally get more viewers when we do shows together.

Do you only do couples shows? Or do you individually do solo shows as well?
We do both kinds of shows because our viewers  like to get one-on-one attention. But they love to see us together too. It really just depends on the mood of the rooms sometimes. If the solo thing isn’t coming across like we want, we’ll switch to a couples show.

From time to time, one person may receive more attention than the other. Does this ever bring up feelings of jealousy? If so, how do you cope with it?
We have a funny situation related to that. I built a decent following doing solo shows while Krystal was…….well…. she was in jail – but that’s a story for another time. LOL. And this group of loyal followers never fail to let Krystal know they are there to see me for the most part. Example: We were doing a threesome show and I had to step off camera for a second, to talk to someone at the door. While I was gone the girls were sitting there visiting with the viewers and they were flooded with “Where’s Ed?!” and “Is Ed coming back soon?!”. Two beautiful girls sitting naked on my bed, and the room wanted me back on cam. We have a great sense of humour about it, so it doesn’t bother us much. The best way to cope with any kind of jealousy issues is to just communicate boundaries and set up “rules” before uncomfortable situations create opportunities for jealous feelings.

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Do you feel camming helps your relationship, or is it strictly for financial gain?
It started as a way to spice things up in the bedroom, but it quickly turned into more. Somehow, we felt closer to each other by sharing our most intimate things with total strangers. It built a sense of trust between us that has bled over into our everyday life. We are a team now, striving for the same goals. The money is great and we love our big tippers, but we are not in it for the cash.

Whose idea was it to start camming?
It was totally, and 100% Krystal’s idea. She was surprised I even agreed to do it! It just wasn’t in my character to do something like that. I was married for almost 20 years and had 7 kids before I met Krystal so this was outside my comfort zone. But I took to it pretty fast and found out a lot about myself in the process. Now I wish I had started a lot sooner!

Thank you so much to Ed and Krystal for agreeing to do this interview.
Be sure to check out their twitter here
And most importantly, here is their chaturbate link. As stated above, they aren’t in it for the money but who doesn’t love a good tip?

Other interviews:
Chaturbate Profile Designer 
Ex-Cam Model
Living With a Cam Model
A Viewer

Love always,
Amy

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“Mods”- A Quick Run Down

Once you’re deep into the camming world, it can be hard to keep up with your chat rooms while simultaneously performing. Thankfully, one of your awesome fans will most likely offer to moderate your chat.

Here’s what your “mod” should do:
-Answer repetitive questions
-Learn your tip menu, and inform new viewers
-Silence disrespectful users (up to 6 hours)

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Here’s what they shouldn’t do:
-Go on a power trip “squishing greys¹”
-Demand free services in return
-Neglect your broadcast

Some users suggest “trial runs” with potential mods where they only allow them to run the chat for one day. That way you don’t have to go through the awkwardness of retracting the responsibilities.

All moderators are different: some do it for free, some in exchange for services or tokens. Figure out what’s best for you- know your worth + tax.

Happy camming.
Love always,
Amy

 

1. Squishing greys: silencing undeserving grey users (no tokens) for fun.

Camming & Confidence

Self confidence is something many of us struggle with, and the cam world can both help and hinder a persons experience with it.

Con: some compliments suck…

As a cam model, you’re going to get people fetishize things you don’t necessarily like about yourself. Personally, I got people “compliment” me on my chubby belly, or they’d say obscenities about my lady bits that made me question my own attractiveness. It’s important to remember that these people are fetishizing, so even though their pointing it out may make us unsettled, they’re saying it because to them it’s hot.

Pro: … but most don’t! 

Sure, you’ll get the comments you hate, but for every dumb comment, there’s ten good. Most want to shower you in compliments regarding just how gorgeous, and sexy you are. These same viewers will typically also jump down the throats of trolls.

Con: it’s easy to compare your body to others.

When you use a website that hosts incredible amounts of stripping models, it can be hard not to look. Whether it’s for your own sexy time, to find ideas and inspiration, or to befriend fellow models, you will most likely visit another girls chat. In doing this, most of us compare our own bodies to our smaller, smarter, more ravishing camming counterparts, which can be damaging to our own self-image.

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Pro: learning your body is a confidence boost.

A big reason I enjoyed camming was that I learned so much about my own body. Learning how to make myself genuinely cum, my likes and dislikes, made me more confident in my real life.

Con: your income may not be what you expected. 

Okay, so maybe the start is a little slower than you thought, and you’re discouraged by your cash flow. It’s hard not to equate tips and self worth, but remember your profits are not only determined by your attractiveness, but also by your hours punched, promotions, networks ect.
Related: Make More Money

Pro: someone is paying you to be your sexy self! 

No matter what your income is though, you need to remember someone is paying you because you’re hot. Talk about a confidence boost.

 

Thank you for reading todays post. With Christmas quickly approaching, I hope you’re taking this time to be with family, eat good meals, and dress up in sexy Christmas lingerie on camera.

Love always,
Amy

Interview: Evanu on Viewing Cams

Welcome back to the blog. Today we’re diving into another interview, but this time with a viewer.

So, you’re a viewer who hasn’t cammed in his life?

Evanu: Oh yes. Good thing too. I hate to think where the Lovense would have to go.

What kind of cam categories are your favorites? (ie, couples, trans, single female/male ect.)

Evanu: I feel honoured and privileged to be in the bedrooms of the single females. I respect them as being younger and often quite lovely. This is wonderfully supportive of my orientation and it makes me feel more manly.

What makes a cam model special?

Evanu: I look for personality, style, freshness and creativity. I like interacting with positive and playful models who seem present and responsive. Life force is important for me and I enjoy models who appear to love what they are doing. Especially when they are experiencing release through orgasm. This is a visual gift different than any other types of media since it is live, personal and interactive. 

What makes cams better than porn? (if you consider them to be, and if not, what makes porn better?)

Evanu: Oh, there are a lot of things. Top on my list is the aspect of how relaxed the models are in their own environment. They are self managed, directed and often quite disciplined. I feel that this venue provides many opportunities for self discovery and personal growth. Over all, I think it is a wonderful form of adult entertainment.

Do you consider watching cam models to be cheating?

Evanu: This is a great question. The answer would depend on the deeper motive for visiting. If a person is in a relationship with a close partner with whom they are having sex, I feel it is important that a man to be able to stand in his own reality and discuss this with his partner at some point. Living in a state of hiding, cheating and being mousy about one’s life and sexuality shows a weakness of character and personal integrity. But, discretion is important, too. It is important to consider your partner’s feelings before sharing, and know how to approach something that may be a sensitive and touchy issue. This also, I feel, may be valuable for opening discussion with her on topics that relate to human sexuality and eroticism.  
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What is the importance of tipping? /how much do you feel is an appropriate amount?

Evanu: I have never heard the phrase “Thank You!” used to often. Tipping is something that males need to consider wisely and must understand who or what is in control. One can tip over into debt quite easily, while another stays in the background absorbing visuals and never providing support for the models. The same is true for other media. I feel this is something each patron must decide for themselves based on how much they can afford and budget, and how they might choose to approach the venue. There are thousands of models available at any given time. How does one decide who to visit and support with tips, and why? There are also questions of control. Seasoned models know how to draw tips from naive visitors.  I think each person who enjoys the venue must recon with this issue at some point and learn to control themselves. This will lead to more consistent and enjoyable viewing, I believe. It is an important aspect of the male psyche to protect, support and maintain his household and friends. If I connect with a model and spend time in her bedroom I tip continuously but modestly as fits my budget. I am finding that it feels better to support a few rather than running around exploring new territory and squandering my resources. As far as an appropriate amount. Many models suggest a price list for what they are prepared to deliver. I think one should honor them when asking for services but never be afraid to negotiate. It is clear that models tend to be quite generous. We should respond in kind with someone we admire and respect.
(Check out Evanu’s blog post on tippingThis was my personal favourite)
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& of course a little self promo- tell me about your blog (when it started/why you started it/it’s goals & purpose)

Evanu: Having been a life coach for sex workers for many years I have come to view the camming venue as one worthy of support and positive input. I feel I have valuable resources to contribute to those who engage interactively there. I enjoy seeing others engage in self discovery and sharing their knowledge and experiences, especially when I have had a hand in their process as a facilitator.

What is the beautiful peoples project?

Evanu: The Beautiful People Project is about perfecting relationships and personal power. How we arrive at these things is very much a function of support groups of people who bring their best selves forward to share their wisdom and experience to increase stature, grace and elegance in their lives. The presence of these elements in a person’s life leads to greater and greater levels of happiness, satisfaction and joy coming from a place of personal self worth and giving. 
Thank you Evanu for reaching out to me, and collaborating with me to do an interview from the perspective of a cam viewer.
Check out the blog post he did on me here
Click here to view his blog 

See you all next week for a post about camming and it’s relation to body positivity.
Love always,
Amy

C2C

Cam to cam, commonly abbreviated to “c2c” is when person a has person b’s chatroom open on their screen, and vice versa. Here’s what you need to know:

The first time someone asked me to go c2c, his response was “wow, you actually did it”. Honestly, I didn’t even view his cam, but he had received the notification that in another tab, I had opened his chatroom, and hadn’t immediately left it. I had it open on my lap top, paying no mind to it but he was unaware of my disinterest, and took gratification in the thought of me watching him.

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For the record though, had he tipped me to do it, I would’ve engaged in his cam. If you’re being paid to go cam to cam, it’s always a good idea to type in their chat room, and comment on how sexy they are (or how small their dick is- I’ve been paid to do that too). For a beginner, 50 tokens for 5 minutes seems to be the going rate. As you become a more watched, and in-demand cam model, your prices rise with your popularity.

This has been a very short blog post, but I thought it was time I added a post to my “Technically Speaking” category. Thanks for the read, and I will see you next week.

Amy

What Cam Models Can’t Do

When I was a cam model, I once had a guy offer to tip me in exchange for peeing on camera. While I declined for personal reasons, I didn’t know at the time that if I had done that, I could’ve ended up suspended or banned from the site. Chaturbate, like all sites, have policies that disallow you to do certain things on camera. Here are the ones you should know:

  1. Drugs- Do them off camera.
  2. A Minor Appearing on Screen- Not only can they ban you for this, but they can also contact authorities in your region.
  3. Beastiality- This includes inanimate objects shaped like animals.
  4. “Goatse”- Stretching your asshole excessively wide.
  5. IRL Prostitution- Stay safe, my loves.
  6. Broadcasting in Public- You can broadcast outside, though, as long as it’s on private property that can’t be seen from other properties.
  7. Bodily Fluids- To quote the terms and conditions on the site, “Displays or reference to menstruation, vomit, feces, or urine are not permitted.”
  8. Multiple Men Cumming on a Woman’s Face- Self-explanatory?
  9. Incest- Lot’s of people fantasize about it, but don’t do it.
  10. Intoxicated- Gotta be sober, girlfriend.
  11. Re-directing to Third Parties- You can’t even type the word “Skype” on Chaturbate, your message won’t send it if has that word in it.
  12. Sleeping- whether real or not, you can’t show anybody sleeping on camera.

If you’re looking to do, or see these things, maybe check out a porn site? Thanks for reading! See you next week.

Amy

6 Common Scams

Pretending to be a Family Member 

Personally, this one hasn’t happened to me, but other models have talked about it. It’s also not so much a scam, but more of a stupid trick designed to rattle you. Essentially, a person enters your chat room pretending to be a family member of yours, freaking out that they’ve found you.

Photoshopped Gift Receipts

If you use Amazon as a payment method, this will guaranteed happen to you. Somebody will say they’ve sent you a gift, and produce a fake receipt to prove it. It’s easy to do this, either by using photoshop, or by actually buying the item then cancelling the order. For this reason, it’s best to only accept gift cards and purchase items yourself.

Password Show

Once you start camming, you’ll be advertised as being a new cam model, making you a prime target for this scam. Somebody will come on and tell you a word that’ll “promote your show”, when in all actuality you’re setting up a password show. Check the link for Password Shows vs. Private Shows.

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Profile Designer Scam

It won’t be long before you want your cam page to look pretty & professional. To achieve this, you’re going to need a profile designer. If someone says they need to log into your account to set this up, they’re lying and they’re going to send themselves your tokens. Profile designers will actually send you a code that you will copy and paste into your bio- no password required.

Location-tracking Links

A new scam, and the most dangerous. It works like this: somebody sends you a link, and on your end it doesn’t seem to work. On theirs, they receive your location. Easy black mail material.

“Do This & I’ll Send a Good Tip”

And of course, who could forget the most classic of scams? You won’t make it a week of camming without seeing the infamous like “Do *insert thing that definitely requires a tip* and I’ll send a crazy amount of tokens.” Obviously, the tokens never come.

 

Thanks for reading! Shout out to an extra special (and extra sexy) reader whose birthday is tomorrow. Check back next week for another post.

Lots of love,
Amy