Straight for Pay

No matter your gender, if you’re a cam model you’ve probably figured out that your clients are primarily male. It’s no secrets that women seem to be less inclined to these websites, which can be tricky if it’s women you’d rather be talking with.

If you’ve ever seen a show of mine, you would think I’m a bisexual with lots of interest in people, no matter how they identify. That was a lie for my audience. In all truth, I’ve only recently taken on the label of bisexual, and throughout the entire time I was on camera, I was exclusively dating women. Honestly, it was fun pretending to be someone else, but it came with its issues.

Even now, I would say that it’s rare for me to want to date a man. I have been, so obviously I’m not gay, but I certainly lean to one side of the spectrum more than the other. Since being with men wasn’t something I was even considering at the time, it was uncomfortable to constantly have men chase me. On camera wasn’t so bad, because it was a genderless bot typing to me as far as I was concerned. Snapchat was really where the problem was. Constantly, boys faces appeared on my phone screen as they told me how sexy, perfect, beautiful I was. Their eyes looked dull as they requested photos of my body. Never mind the occasional surprise dick pic I would receive. It’s funny, really. I had all these boys at my disposal if ever I wanted an interactive experience, yet I ignored them for low-quality lesbian porn.

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The next problem was much harder. I went on plenty of dates, but there was only ever one girl I felt confident enough to tell about this part of my past. She was accepting, embracive even, but it’s no secret that not every reaction would be like hers. Maybe my worry isn’t justified, but I always feared that any girl I would date would not understand a “straight for pay” lifestyle, they would think I wasn’t “gay enough”, or maybe they’d think I only wanted them for male attention. Trying to find a relationship as a cam model felt hard enough as most people look down upon sex workers, but then to add in the extra stress of trying to explain pretending to be into men for cash- well that was hard.

Lastly, it makes you feel like you’re lying. My regulars frequently commented on how “authentic” they believed me to be, yet here I was, pretending to be something I wasn’t. As someone who was already struggling with identity issues, it made things even more confusing for me. I felt guilt, and confusion every time I made up a story about sleeping with a guy because I knew I wanted nothing to do with that. I knew I only wanted to seem available for my male viewers.

No matter your sexual orientation, whether or not you lie about it on screen, you’re valid. I’m not going to lie, being “straight for pay” sucked, but I did it to keep my regulars thinking I was enjoying their unsolicited advances. I didn’t enjoy the discomfort of men flirting with me, the struggles in real life dating, and the fact that I felt I was lying every time I logged in but I did it, and I don’t think that’s something I would change.

Thank you for reading.


Love always,
Amy

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Privates vs. Password Shows

This week’s post was going to be on being gay as a cam model, but in all honestly I ended up needing to write it in a public space. Since there’s an older gentlemen continuously looking at my screen, I chose to take a different route and do a technical piece for you. Glancers understand that less.

When I started, I thought private’s and password shows were essentially the same. They’re not. Here’s a quick post on the difference.

Password Shows

  • When you start a password show, it kicks the audience out of your room, and they won’t be able to return until you’re off.
  • There is no option for your other viewers to “spy” on your show. I had viewers who were super into this idea, as it made them feel like they were getting something more exclusive. It’s a good option to bring in those kind of people.

New girls beware: When I first started, I had someone try and convince me to set a phrase in the password show section, saying that it would get me more views, as it acted as a hashtag. That didn’t make much sense to me so I didn’t do it, but in case someone is a little smarter about how they phrase it to you, just know they’re scamming you for a free show.

  • Money: Always take your tokens up front for these shows because you will hear “I’ll pay you in a gift” or “I want to make sure I like your show before I pay you”. That pay cheque will never come.

Private Shows

  • -When you leave for a private show, your other viewers won’t be given the boot. A message will appear across your screen to let them know you’re in a private, and they can leave your cam open if they please.
  • -In my opinion, private shows are where it’s at. Because you get paid by the minute, this is where you can get dirty and make your killing. And people know that this is where you get scandalous, so not only will you be collecting tokens from the primary client, but also from those paying to “spy” on the show.
  • -Money 2.0: The website does the work for you. If your client runs out of tokens, the private show will automatically end. There’s no guess work. It’s great.

 

A final note before you go: Don’t be that girl that obviously drags things out to keep them in your private show longer. It makes for bad business. Keep it subtle.

  1. Add a minimum time requirement to your show.
  2. Instead of asking how they are, talk dirty to them before taking off any clothes.
  3. Instead of being neutral, prolong your fake orgasm and pretend to be edging.

Make it rain, girl, make it rain.

Check back next week for our scheduled post about being gay as a cam girl!

 

Love always,
Amy

 

 

 

The Time I (Kinda) Did Porn

I always knew that having my cam show recorded and re-uploaded on a pornography website was a possibility. I didn’t, however, think it would happen to me when I first started, when I had only a thousand followers. One Friday, a regular of mine messaged me a link to a video of one of shows on a website I hadn’t heard of before. You could see images from the show, but would have to pay to view the whole video, which meant that whoever had taken my video was now profiting from my work. And not only that, but I had no control over who could see the video, as there was no way to geoblock.

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I was sick to my stomach. I messaged my flatmate, Rosie, who was also a cam girl, and she too found herself on this website. I emailed the support centre, but never did receive a reply, nor were the videos ever removed.  Rosie decided to fill out a form to have the video taken down, which is when she read that the website harbouring our videos was actually a network site of Chaturbates. This meant that the site that employed us was also recording us, and selling our content without paying us those profits.

So what can you do about this? There is an option in your settings to make it so that network sites can’t sell your videos. The downfall of this, however, is that you aren’t advertised nearly as well, and certain users simply aren’t capable of accessing your cam room. You have to take your pick: do you want less viewers and to have a company profit from your content, or do you want to stay off network sites and struggle with your rooms traffic? If you don’t want to appear on network sites:
Settings & Privacy > Appear on Network Sites > No
Additionally, if you play music in the background of your shows, a lot of websites won’t be able to post it (at least with sound) due to copyright issues.

Personally, I started off horrified of what was going to happen with these videos out there, but thankfully nothing has to date. Once I was done being sick to my stomach, I went back to the videos and took screenshots of the photos they used to advertise the videos. Now I have some sick ass nudes.

I hope you learned lots, and enjoyed todays post. Catch me next week with a post on being gay whilst being a cam model!

Love always,
Amy

A List of 25 Sex Show Ideas

Yep, you read the title right. This week is going to be a list of spicy show ideas that will surely drive your audience crazy. Remember to tweet about it beforehand to let your followers know that this is a night on camera they won’t want to miss!

  1. Ice Show– all you need is ice cubes!
  2. Duo– have another age-verified member join your cam.
  3. Perform Outside– unless you have nosey neighbours of course.
  4. Tip Count Down– a classic.
  5. Birthday Show– bring a cake and consider sitting on it?
  6. Bondage Night– seriously, audiences eat up all things taboo.
  7. Shower Shoot– the one time you can’t pee in the shower.
  8. Sexy Trivia– “I’ll remove one piece of clothes for each correct answer about my made up life!”
  9. Anal Show– a classic I couldn’t bring myself to do.
  10. Sexy Police Officer– you probably already have the sun glasses and handcuffs.
  11. Sex Dice– no need to buy them. There’s a bot for that!
  12. Yoga– make them feel like they’re spying on a sexy yoga class.
  13. Spank Night– all you need is a paddle, and a willing butt!
  14. Bath Badness– just set your lap top up on a stool near your tub!
  15. Oil Show– oil everywhere. Simple.
  16. Dance Party– the most fun I’ve had on camera is dancing in my underwear.
  17. Food night– whipped cream goes a long way.
  18. Panty Fashion Show– this has actually been requested a lot more than you’d think.
  19. Sex Toy Initiation– baby dildos first cam show!
  20. Paint Night– personal favourite.
  21. Catholic School Girl Dress Up– you’ve probably already thought of this one.
  22. Wax– but without burning yourself.
  23. Truth or Dare– tips required.
  24. Birds Eye View– no idea how to set it up, but I think it would be worth the hassle.
  25. 1/2 Price Sale– tip menu is 1/2 price from 11pm-12am only!

 

Oh, and as always, who doesn’t love a good Lovense show?

What did I miss? Let me know in the comments to keep the ideas coming! I hope at least one thing on this list inspired you, and helped you to make more money. Thanks for the read, and I’ll see you back here next week for a post on the Seven Types of Viewers in the cam world.

Love always,
Amy

Socializing Naked

I’m going to start this article off with a quick burst of honesty. As an online model, I hated social media, and couldn’t stand to use anything but Twitter. Sure, it’s quick and seemingly easy money, but it makes it so that your viewers can contact you at any point in your day, instead of just when you’re on camera. This led me to feeling like I was constantly working, and ultimately caused me to dread the sound of SnapChat notifications. Here’s a few quick tips to make social media as a cam girl less about working 24/7, and more about creating a more fun and intimate experience for your clients.

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Twitter

Twitter is the #1 social media used by models, and viewers. It’s relatively common that cam models have a free account, where they can post when their viewing or if there’s any change to their schedules. It can also be a great way to interact with your followers, without getting too involved (ie. surveys, like this tweet if..”). The key to this, however, is to ignore your direct messages. Save the one on one conversations for paid content, otherwise everyone will just use your free platform. Wouldn’t you?

 

SnapChat

If you haven’t already figured out, I despised SnapChat. It was ten dick pics in a row followed by a black screen with the words “Show pussy. I got a big tip waiting for u so I deserve it xx” written across it. Repeat. To avoid this, set extremely clear boundaries about your expectations. For example:

SnapChat is 369 tokens. No dick pics, or demands… unless they’re asked for 😉 Snap you soon! 

My flatmate, who was also an online model, would only check her social media 6 days of the week. She said it was a crucial part in keeping her from feeling like her job revolved around her part time job as a cam girl. Furthermore, for no reason should you ever feel guilty for deleting someone who does not respect your boundaries.

 

Instagram

I didn’t actually use Instagram as a model, so perhaps I don’t have a whole lot of room to talk about it. Here’s what I know from checking out other models accounts, and from talking with those who used it. Not many people will pay to follow your Instagram, as they usually feel they can just see you naked in the chat room. If they’re paying for the platform, clients will typically want to use something where they can chat with you.

Skype

Treat Skype as a platform for private shows. Take the money upfront, and make sure to keep an eye on the time so that you aren’t giving more than they paid for. Also, it’s worth noting that Chaturbate will not let you send messages containing the word Skype. If a customer is inquiring, insert a space between each letter so the algorithm doesn’t pick up on what you’re trying to communicate.

 

Email

Not really a social media, but it seemed relevant enough to include it. Since you have to make an email to set up any social media for your online persona, you might as well use it. Email is an awesome way to arrange privates, and you can attach it to your Amazon account to know when someone has purchased an item from your wish list.

 

 

A Couple More Quick Tips

  1. Remember this is your job. Stay professional, and don’t use any social media to rant. It’s not a cute look.
  2. You can make deals! If your social medias went for 400 tokens ea., why not sell two together for 600? Even in the cam world, people love a good Buy One, Get One 50%
  3. Turn off your push notifications so that messages from your clients aren’t appearing on your phone screen. You wouldn’t want someone from your real life to see that, and say “who’s messaging you?”
  4. As Rosie says, “know your value plus tax”. It can be hard to pick a price for your social media, as you want to start off more inexpensive and increase price upon increased demand. Try your best not to undercharge!

 

Social media can be a lot of fun, and is a fantastic way to get to know your viewers. It’s also an effective way to let them know about changes in your schedule, or any other relevant information. It’s totally up to you what you want to use, and how you want to use it! I hope you enjoyed this post, and I look forward to seeing you in the next one. (It’s about butts!!)

Love always,
Amy

Chat Settings: Chaturbate

Welcome to a brief guide to understanding your chat settings on Chaturbate. Let’s just jump right into it.

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Font & Size

When you’re on camera, it can be hard to read what your viewers are saying in the free chat. To avoid some unattractive squinting, maximize the size of font, and change the colour to committing that pops out to you.

Settings > Font Size > 20pt

Settings > Chat Color > Chose your colour

On occasion, the chat may randomly turn back to the default settings. Don’t worry, it only takes a moment to change it back to your preferred settings again.

“Notify When Leaving”

A default setting of the website is to notify you whenever mods, fans, and users with tokens leaves your room. I found this to be both distracting, and annoying. To turn this off:

Settings > Notify on Leave For > No Users

You can also do this for notifying you when someone enters the room, but personally I recommend leaving it on so you can be sure to greet those users.

Adding Gif’s

To add graphics to your chat type a semicolon (:), followed by a word to prompt options to chose from.

For example :tipifyoulike or :dancingBear

Removing Grey Users

“Grey users” or “Greys” are Chaturbate members who have not purchased any tokens, and therefore cannot tip you. I had a few grey regulars who were pretty respectful, and just enjoyed coming to my chat room to hang out, and enjoy the show. There are, however, a lot of grey users who demand models show their bodies, and engage in sexual acts without tips. As you can imagine, this gets pretty frustrating, so some chose to block grey users from typing in their chats. Here’s how:

Settings > Chats Allowed By: > Users who have tokens

There are a nice few ways to customize your chat. Play with your settings, and figure out what works best for you! Thank you for checking out this “Technically Speaking” article. Check back next week for an article on the do’s and don’ts of social media used commonly by cam models. Thanks for reading!

Love always,
Amy

Interview: Living With A Cam Model

1. How would you describe living with a cam girl?
Interesting. That’s probably the best word to describe it.

2. What is the funniest story from the experience?
When you were live in the kitchen and I needed water. Oh, or there was the time I had a hook up over, and I heard you on camera.
3. What influences has it had?
I actually considered becoming a cam model myself, something I wouldn’t have thought of otherwise. I thought it was taboo, but learned a lot of people do it and now I’m more comfortable with the idea.
4. Do you view cams?
Yes.
5. Have you ever come across a roommate?
I’ve never seen either of my roommates on the cam site, because of geo-block. Although, I did find someone else from my personal life on a website where his video had been uploaded to. Because it was stolen from the actual cam website he used, it didn’t matter if he had geo-block settings on.
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6. Have you ever appeared online?
My voice did, so I made an alter-ego to go along with it. His name was Zach, and he even had his own twitter (now deactivated).
7. What advice do you have for someone in a similar situation?
It may be weird at first, but eventually you get used to it. Then it gets fun, and your life gets more exciting.
8. What is the main difference between living with a cam model, versus a non-model roommate?
It was more of a “nobody give a fuck” attitude. At times, we were more comfortable seeing each other in our underwear and were more open in the house. The downfall is that you live with a secret
9. Secret?
I thought the entire ordeal was interesting, and exciting so I wanted to tell my friends about my living situation, but because of privacy, safety, and stigma, I didn’t tell anyone about my roommates line of work.
As you read, “Zach’s” twitter is de-activated, so there isn’t anywhere you can find him, but I hope you enjoyed the read none-the-less. Catch me next week with a “Technically Speaking” blog on using Chaturbate settings!
Love always,
Amy