When Your Job is to Masturbate

Your job is to masturbate, and while that’s as awesome as it sounds, it can be difficult to keep things hot and heavy. Here’s a quick list of tips to get you through hours of touching yourself.

  1. Invest in lube.

    Do it. Do it. Nobody can stay wet forever, and your vagina will thank you. Here’s a super helpful resource for picking out the right kind for your needs.

  2. While you’re investing: sex toy cleaner.
    This one isn’t a method of keeping things lubricated, but I thought it was important enough to make the list. Assumably, you’ll be using toys. Stay sanitary, ladies and gentlemen.
  3. Have a partner help you out.
    You get paid for sending nudes, but whose sending you private photos? Before going online, or while you’re on, consider have someone in your real life get you in the mood. I’ve known girls who’ve had their boyfriends sext them as they’re performing to help keep them feeling sexy. Not a bad idea, in my opinion.

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  4. No partner? No problem.
    Porn! Or in my case, erotica! I have a private tumblr account devoted to it, and that was all I ever needed to get me good and prepared for some hot alone time. Thank you, internet.

For safety tips, click here. Don’t forget: if it goes in your butt, it shouldn’t go in your vagina, or mouth afterward & always pee after vaginal penetration. Happy masturbating. Stay wet, friends.

Love always,
Amy

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Making Money Offline

You’ve turned the camera off, you’ve got somewhere to be. Great news, you can still profit. Here’s a list of ways to make money while offline.

Sell Your Snapchat

Here’s how: Make a photo collection for tokens, making the second photo an image with your Snapchat username over it. Chaturbate will show the first photo as a preview of the image set, so I used the Snapchat logo.

Sell Your Nudes

Like selling your snapchat, you can do this by selling a photo set on your profile. Anyone who checks your account when your offline will have the opportunity to purchase your sexy pictures.

Fan Clubs

Members of your Fan Club should get special access to your content. Examples of this would be your photo collections, social media, customized videos, panties ect.

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Sell Your Used Underwear

Speaking of panties, you can sell ’em. You can’t sell them through Chaturbate, but you can sell through another site and link it to your twitter & camming accounts. Be sure to use a website that is designed for this as most buy and sell websites do not allow used underwear to be sold.

 

Thanks for reading! Check back next week for a post on masturbation.

Love always,
Amy

Pt 1: Pros & Cons of Camming

I’m considering going back to camming. I’ve been putting a lot of thought into the things I would do differently, and the pros and cons of the job in an effort to figure out if this is right for me.

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Con: Some nights it feels like it takes forever to get started. For whatever reason, there will be nights that are dead, especially after you’re no longer showing up as being a new broadcaster. I mean, sure, it gets better once you develop a good following, but there are simply nights that aren’t worth your time.

Pro: With my busy life, I wouldn’t be able to find a second job that tends to my schedule. With camming, I can work when I need to. Working from home is a major bonus as well.

Con: I’ve talked about “the circle jerk” in previous posts, but it wouldn’t be a pro and con list about camming without bringing it up. It isn’t like I didn’t expect to be objectified- I knew what I was signing up for. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t get irritating when you see “I deserve to see pussy xx” and your fifth dick pic in ten minutes on your screen.

Pro: On the other hand of that, you will undoubtably be showered in compliments. I’d be lying if I said a piece of me didn’t eat up being called “beautiful” and “gorgeous” every time I logged in.

Con: A weird thing about being a cam model that nobody seems to talk about: there is constantly people messaging you trying to give you advice. Everything you offer is too cheap, or too expensive. Someone always has an idea to get you more views. Truly, the constant stream of people correcting your stream gets exhausting, and if I do go back to being a cam model, it’s something I’d need to start ignoring.

Pro: You’re constantly touching and edging yourself for an extended period of time. Some of my best orgasms have happened on camera, or shortly after it’s turned off.

 

I’m still undecided, but I’ll be sure to keep you all updated. Check back next week for part two: what I would do differently. Thanks for reading!

Love always,
Amy

Straight for Pay

No matter your gender, if you’re a cam model you’ve probably figured out that your clients are primarily male. It’s no secrets that women seem to be less inclined to these websites, which can be tricky if it’s women you’d rather be talking with.

If you’ve ever seen a show of mine, you would think I’m a bisexual with lots of interest in people, no matter how they identify. That was a lie for my audience. In all truth, I’ve only recently taken on the label of bisexual, and throughout the entire time I was on camera, I was exclusively dating women. Honestly, it was fun pretending to be someone else, but it came with its issues.

Even now, I would say that it’s rare for me to want to date a man. I have been, so obviously I’m not gay, but I certainly lean to one side of the spectrum more than the other. Since being with men wasn’t something I was even considering at the time, it was uncomfortable to constantly have men chase me. On camera wasn’t so bad, because it was a genderless bot typing to me as far as I was concerned. Snapchat was really where the problem was. Constantly, boys faces appeared on my phone screen as they told me how sexy, perfect, beautiful I was. Their eyes looked dull as they requested photos of my body. Never mind the occasional surprise dick pic I would receive. It’s funny, really. I had all these boys at my disposal if ever I wanted an interactive experience, yet I ignored them for low-quality lesbian porn.

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The next problem was much harder. I went on plenty of dates, but there was only ever one girl I felt confident enough to tell about this part of my past. She was accepting, embracive even, but it’s no secret that not every reaction would be like hers. Maybe my worry isn’t justified, but I always feared that any girl I would date would not understand a “straight for pay” lifestyle, they would think I wasn’t “gay enough”, or maybe they’d think I only wanted them for male attention. Trying to find a relationship as a cam model felt hard enough as most people look down upon sex workers, but then to add in the extra stress of trying to explain pretending to be into men for cash- well that was hard.

Lastly, it makes you feel like you’re lying. My regulars frequently commented on how “authentic” they believed me to be, yet here I was, pretending to be something I wasn’t. As someone who was already struggling with identity issues, it made things even more confusing for me. I felt guilt, and confusion every time I made up a story about sleeping with a guy because I knew I wanted nothing to do with that. I knew I only wanted to seem available for my male viewers.

No matter your sexual orientation, whether or not you lie about it on screen, you’re valid. I’m not going to lie, being “straight for pay” sucked, but I did it to keep my regulars thinking I was enjoying their unsolicited advances. I didn’t enjoy the discomfort of men flirting with me, the struggles in real life dating, and the fact that I felt I was lying every time I logged in but I did it, and I don’t think that’s something I would change.

Thank you for reading.


Love always,
Amy

Privates vs. Password Shows

This week’s post was going to be on being gay as a cam model, but in all honestly I ended up needing to write it in a public space. Since there’s an older gentlemen continuously looking at my screen, I chose to take a different route and do a technical piece for you. Glancers understand that less.

When I started, I thought private’s and password shows were essentially the same. They’re not. Here’s a quick post on the difference.

Password Shows

  • When you start a password show, it kicks the audience out of your room, and they won’t be able to return until you’re off.
  • There is no option for your other viewers to “spy” on your show. I had viewers who were super into this idea, as it made them feel like they were getting something more exclusive. It’s a good option to bring in those kind of people.

New girls beware: When I first started, I had someone try and convince me to set a phrase in the password show section, saying that it would get me more views, as it acted as a hashtag. That didn’t make much sense to me so I didn’t do it, but in case someone is a little smarter about how they phrase it to you, just know they’re scamming you for a free show.

  • Money: Always take your tokens up front for these shows because you will hear “I’ll pay you in a gift” or “I want to make sure I like your show before I pay you”. That pay cheque will never come.

Private Shows

  • -When you leave for a private show, your other viewers won’t be given the boot. A message will appear across your screen to let them know you’re in a private, and they can leave your cam open if they please.
  • -In my opinion, private shows are where it’s at. Because you get paid by the minute, this is where you can get dirty and make your killing. And people know that this is where you get scandalous, so not only will you be collecting tokens from the primary client, but also from those paying to “spy” on the show.
  • -Money 2.0: The website does the work for you. If your client runs out of tokens, the private show will automatically end. There’s no guess work. It’s great.

 

A final note before you go: Don’t be that girl that obviously drags things out to keep them in your private show longer. It makes for bad business. Keep it subtle.

  1. Add a minimum time requirement to your show.
  2. Instead of asking how they are, talk dirty to them before taking off any clothes.
  3. Instead of being neutral, prolong your fake orgasm and pretend to be edging.

Make it rain, girl, make it rain.

Check back next week for our scheduled post about being gay as a cam girl!

 

Love always,
Amy

 

 

 

The Time I (Kinda) Did Porn

I always knew that having my cam show recorded and re-uploaded on a pornography website was a possibility. I didn’t, however, think it would happen to me when I first started, when I had only a thousand followers. One Friday, a regular of mine messaged me a link to a video of one of shows on a website I hadn’t heard of before. You could see images from the show, but would have to pay to view the whole video, which meant that whoever had taken my video was now profiting from my work. And not only that, but I had no control over who could see the video, as there was no way to geoblock.

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I was sick to my stomach. I messaged my flatmate, Rosie, who was also a cam girl, and she too found herself on this website. I emailed the support centre, but never did receive a reply, nor were the videos ever removed.  Rosie decided to fill out a form to have the video taken down, which is when she read that the website harbouring our videos was actually a network site of Chaturbates. This meant that the site that employed us was also recording us, and selling our content without paying us those profits.

So what can you do about this? There is an option in your settings to make it so that network sites can’t sell your videos. The downfall of this, however, is that you aren’t advertised nearly as well, and certain users simply aren’t capable of accessing your cam room. You have to take your pick: do you want less viewers and to have a company profit from your content, or do you want to stay off network sites and struggle with your rooms traffic? If you don’t want to appear on network sites:
Settings & Privacy > Appear on Network Sites > No
Additionally, if you play music in the background of your shows, a lot of websites won’t be able to post it (at least with sound) due to copyright issues.

Personally, I started off horrified of what was going to happen with these videos out there, but thankfully nothing has to date. Once I was done being sick to my stomach, I went back to the videos and took screenshots of the photos they used to advertise the videos. Now I have some sick ass nudes.

I hope you learned lots, and enjoyed todays post. Catch me next week with a post on being gay whilst being a cam model!

Love always,
Amy

Butt Safety

Let’s talk about anal! Below are some quick tips to safely masturbating with your butt.

Less Pain, More Gain

  • Lube, lube, and even more (water-based) lube. It’s something you hear often, and it’s with good reason that you do. Trust me, lube will make your experience so much better.
  • Start slow! Put small things in your butt before putting anything of significant size in there. And no matter what you put in there, be sure it has a base. I don’t need any of you ending up in the ER because a toy got stuck in your butt.
  • Fingernails hurt. Cut them.

“Cum” Prepared

Before your first anal show, make sure you figure it out off camera. You need time to figure out works for you without the pressure of your audience. Furthermore, just because you’re nervous, doesn’t mean you should get drunk or high to try this out.

“Don’t just be drunk or under some sort of substance and just trying to get it in there. That’s how a lot of women end up hating anal sex because you tend to be tensed up and not working with the process.” -Doctor Van Kirk

How To Not Give Yourself an Infection

Once something goes in your butt, it does not go anywhere else in your body. It does not go in your vagina. It does not go in your mouth. It does not go near your eyes. Repeat: once something goes in your butt, it does not go anywhere else in your body. This also goes for your fingers since bacteria can be trapped under your nails, no matter how short they are. Wash your hands thoroughly!

Clean all toys well, and use condoms over dildos. If a toy is used in your butt, it is now an anal toy. Buy something else for vaginal simulation. Please.

Be sure to check back next week for another post. Get excited because it’s a list of show ideas (you’re welcome).

& again, don’t put anything in your butt without a base.
Love always,
Amy